It’s not cliché, it’s the truth: Each passenger must first don her oxygen mask before she can turn to her struggling seatmate.

And I decided then and there, I had to do whatever it took to be able to bike with her. In Kate Bowler’s words, I had to try to try.

At the bare minimum, seeking contentment began with me saying, “I am enough.”

The message to me is clear: Get online, so you can figure out how to live offline.